Meeting old friendsSubscribe |
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Sat, 07/21/2007 - 11:41
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Anais Alexandre
Join Date: 2006-11-07 Forum Posts: 75 |
I use to have a close friend whom I grew apart from in a very natural way. Our friendship ended and I believe it was for the best, I have had no regrets. Well, my question is this; We have mutual friends which neither of us have seen in a long time (away at college). They contacted me to get together and that old friend of mine will be there. I don't wan't to hesitate or be weird but the idea of being around her makes me uncomfortable. I guess I don't really know what to do. Any advice would be welcome! =) |
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Join Date: 2004-11-30
Forum Posts: 2610
You can have a really good work on all egos making you feel uncomfortable... just trying to find the way to be clear and aware with that person.
Learning how to interact with her like with a loved sister.
I had such an experience recently, it was hard, but it was good one finally. I am glad that I went to see him as well as put efforts to be aware and eliminate all the egos there, even they were so strong and hard to eliminate.
I wish you good luck!
Join Date: 2005-01-13
Forum Posts: 67
i am sure that you'll have to decide on your own the best course of action. I'll give you an opinion for whats its worth though :)
from a gnostic perspective the uncomfortable feelings that you are having, or basically any negativity that you might feel towards this person can be explained by the subconscious or "egos" which you may already have heard all about if you've been on the site or taken any of the courses. Ultimately by going against those emotions and thoughts we can move forward spiritually. (with the goal of eventually eliminating them through various techniques of meditation and self-observation, alchemy, etc.)
Humanity is one family, and there should be no reason to harbor negative feelings towards others regardless of the circumstances. it could be important for you to try to look into why you have these feelings of discomfort to see exactly where it comes from to see if it is ego-based.
on the other hand, friendships form by affinity i.e. birds of a feather flock together. there may be a reason why the friendship ended in the first place. If you are into spiritual things for example and this person started to get heavily into drugs, then you no longer have something in common with the person, in fact spending time with them could be harmful.
So trying to get in touch with your intuition might be a good practice as well as trying to look into the feeling of discomfort that you have to determine the best thing to do. Alternatively, it might be that you could help this person in some way or that you could learn something from each other- as long as you are not putting yourself into any sort of dangerous situation.
If you determine that the thoughts that you are having are ego-related, its best to try to get clear, maybe take a walk, then make an informed decision on what to do, then let it go. Don't dwell on it, because the egos related to stress of making the decision, anxiety of meeting the person, those uncomfortable feelings, etc all take you away from the present moment and will take away your energy!
hope that helps- good luck.
Join Date: 2006-11-07
Forum Posts: 75
Join Date: 2004-02-26
Forum Posts: 45
I have been surprised to find old ego's resurface when I see old friends. And I ask myself - why on earth am I feeling like this again? I haven't felt this way in years!