righteous anger
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Wed, 10/08/2008 - 04:50
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Elliot
Join Date: 2006-01-27 Forum Posts: 109 |
Some people I know might say I have anger problems, but I believe my anger is justified most of the time. When people are ignorant and unaware of their pain, I feel it. This is not an ego, I actually feel the pain that they refuse to own themselves. I could laugh, which is what many people do when they are in pain, and this seems to be the norm...but this is messed up...when I am in pain, I feel like crying, not laughing. If I laugh, the pain is ignored and the person continues holding on to that pain and passing it around wherever he/she goes. If I get angry, however, at least I make this person aware of their pain. Pain must be felt to be healed. I remember reading somewhere that our enemy is not fear, but apathy. We should not be ashamed of our sadness. If people would be more genuine and aware, and not be scared of their own feelings then the world would be a better place. |
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Join Date: 2004-11-30
Forum Posts: 2898
Hi Elliot,
From what I investigate and can see, in some circumstances justification and even letting go of anger can be better than to hold it within.
By other hand, for me it's so much better to be in conscious state.
Free of anger, free of fear, free of apathy and sadness, free of pride and envy, etc.
Self-discovery helps me to see the difference between conscious state, awareness in/externally and anger in any form.
Maybe besides the class here, you may find these videos useful and interesting...
http://www.belzebuub.com/movies#tabs-vidtab-1
Kind regards,
Join Date: 2004-05-09
Forum Posts: 22
Hi Elliot
Its interesting (and generally painful) to observe ourselves when we are angry. Like you I find it very easy to justify my anger, especially when I've been wronged.
The problem I've found giving in to anger, is my pain lasts longer, and not only that, my reaction to the other person often starts a snowballing effect, of tit for tat actions and reactions.
When I've been able to catch myself, although hurt and in pain, if I go against the initial thoughts of revenge, I can act in a more appropriate way, sometimes cracking a joke, or choosing to ignore the remark etc.
Remarkably adopting the second approach, that overwhelming feeling of anger just dissipates, and is replaced by a much more pleasant state. It's quite remarkeable to experience.
An additional advantage of fighting anger is to see how your relationships begin to change, becoming friendlier and more beneficial.
Retrospections help to understand the way anger manifests, so we can see the signals and go against them, sort of cut them off at the pass. Also awareness walks and mantras are great, as they get us in touch with spiritual feelings such as peace, which is much more pleasant than anger, and something worth fighting anger to achieve.
All the best
Cliff