Interesting question.
For me, I think it might have been a selfish reason.

I used to look at other people with their babies and have this feeling of longing, like I seriously seriously wanted a baby.
I didn't really think about it at the time, all I was aware of was how much I wanted and needed to have one.
Maybe some deeper feelings/egos were that I wanted something that was mine and all mine, that I had made from scratch and something that was pure and untainted.
Very selfish.

The reason I know I was being selfish is because when I think about it now, it's that I wanted to enhance my own life.
I knew I would be bringing in a human to this world who would experience pain and sickness and confusion etc, but my want to have a baby was stronger.
I have a different view of things now. I'm glad I have children, they teach me, and I teach them (hopefully), but the drive to have more children has gone.

I think when having children you have to be aware of any feelings of pride that come up, it's an easy trap to fall into, to be proud that you created something so beautiful. When really, it's not that hard to make a baby!

Love, Jo

Hi Suave,

I have a son but I didnt really expect to have one. But when I did have one it was ok I twisted my life a little bit to make him fit into and around me.

Its more responsibility though and. But I have known its Karma which brings offsprings?

Sometimes I oddly thing life would be boring just me and my hub if we do not have my son.

Umm about adoption I have heard that people do adopt to make them feel good and for the want to have one.

But speaking about all this, love is best achieved when we work within us spiritually. Inner peace and working spiritually can make us love everyone and everything around us.

This is really what I feel on this...

Talk to you again,
Juliana

No comment, just that sometimes people adopt because they want to help, because they are inherently good people and have enough in their heart to be able to love someone who is not their own blood fully.

Ahoy!

Thankyou Jo and Juliana for showing us your points of view and sharing your experiences.

I am just a single bloke and I enjoy my life and that is why I sometimes think that having no children at all is easier and means no big responsibilities and could also be an indication of an ego, say laziness or selfishness.

I agree with Ahona on adoption; although raising own children and ensuring they get all their needs satisfied, both physical and emotional, surely is a huge job, I believe that raising an abandoned child could possibly help at least one young being to have a decent childhood and could provide a dependent guiltless child with secure environment. I cannot see any selfishness in adoption.

Thankyou again for replies.

May the Force be with you.

In my opinion, many people have children because they feel like it is seem sort of obligation, "everyone else has them, so we have to as well". You often find this among very religious people.

Obviously there are people who sincerely want kids and care for them, but there are also many who have them just for the sake of having them, and don't really take care of them as much as they could once they do have them.

Just my thoughts :)

Hello Ahona!

I like what you say about people wanting to adopt children because they want to help and the virtue of being able to love people that is not your own blood. Selfishness is very common, but the more awaken consciousness a human achieves the more Love without selfishness is able to express. Some people are only able to love a small group, family and close friends, but I think that Masters and Superior Beings are able to love all Humanity.

Also, I think that adopting is a good deed, because there are so many children that are orphans living in poor conditions or abused, and they cannot defend themselves, therefore they have to go through suffering, although this is karma, but it's nice if people can help to free them from this karma.