Gnostics hunting continues, my fiancee left me after a year of commitment and several years of knowing each other

That's creepy I was thinking this could happen in my future relationship, although I don't have a girlfriend yet!. I guess that's an ego too. Worrying is not good.

I feel you Ruben, think of the positve part : If she was the woman of your dreams, she would have stayed, that's what real love is like.

Good luck.

I'm really really sorry to hear that Ricardo.

They say that when a door is closed a window is opened. It's probably not much consolation now, but maybe this relationship ending means a better, stronger one in the future with someone who is more suited to you, and who will not so easily be influenced by other people's opinions of what's right and wrong. I don't think things happen because of coincidence. Maybe you'll find out later that even though this is really hard it's what you needed to go through at this point in your life.

If you feel like you need to talk to someone at any time there are lots of people here who would be willing to listen.

David

That's terrible, I feel for you.

We suffer and learn. It's a long, hard, lonely path. If we keep on it I'm sure we will be given everything we need, but not in the ways we expect.

We can't control what happens, but what we can do is control how we react to it.

Hi Caminantegnostico,

I am sorry to hear about it, thanks so much for sharing!

You know, how it is said: "nothing dries faster than a tear". You would be alright soon and see how much you have learned from that situation.
Imagine, letting someone to come really close to you, getting seriously commited...and then discover that you are with the wrong person.
Nobody wants that.

I can't relate to your sad experience personally, but I remember my very good friend, with whom we had commenced our esoteric search, had to leave us to start his recruit course in one of the most famous airbourne divisions.
In a few monthes he came back because he had received two letters from home, can we imagine how much they wait for letters from home?...
The first one was from his mother informing him that his father had commited suicide and inviting him for the funeral, and the second one was from his fiancee informing him that she would not wait for him and dates another guy...

He had to pass through all that...but later I remember how he has met his future wife, very smart girl, friendly, attractive, someone who can always find joy in a simple things. There was like a magnet between them.
Later they got married and when I came to visit them, they looked so happy to be together... wonderful couple!

Yes, It's sad how easily most of the people can be influenced.
In the last century there had been made some interesting psychological experiments regarding conformity and obedience by Asch and Milgram, proving externally what we can prove for ourselves internally with self-observation, retrospection and other self-discovery tools.

Hopefully, the coming round of the courses would help you to take your mind out of it!

Best wishes!

Vadim

Your experience seems painful, but also like a blessing in another way. Living closely with someone who doesn't share your deep convictions can be so miserable and lonely. Even worse is having children together and then the differences are magnified and prolonged.

I wish you the best in starting fresh. Perhaps while improving your inner life, you'll naturally attract a partner that is spiritually in tune with you.

Keep your spirits up and move on. Real love doesn't discriminate.

And maybe, just maybe your spirit progressed faster than hers did. You may be moving closer to your true beloved, as painful as it may seem now. So continue to walk the path that is right for you and watch your life unfold. Peace.

Sorry to hear that Ricardo,

The gnostic path can be very cruel sometimes, although it is in order for us to remove desires and wake up.
But when not doing gnosis, life can also be cruel due to karma, and even dont wake up.

All the strength,

Peter

I'm not surprised at all.  From what I understand 7th day adventist's stick together.  I recently told a man that I had feelings for him and he  is 7th day and I told him my denomination and things seemed to change from him being interested to totally being cold so I don't know either so I can totally relate to your situation in a sense since it seems like both of our people had their friends get to them.  Are all of her friends 7th day?  I'm going to send you a PM so I hope you get it.

Actually this is a good thing, as it has been said before there's a difference between passion and love and sometimes it is hard to make that difference.

If you think about this, talking to your special one about your beliefs its sort of a test, If your special one thinks she/he can't continue with you because of your beliefs, then that's a clear signal that perhaps she/he wasn't very in love with you, and that the best thing you can do is to move on and keep looking for a very special person that will come no matter what you do since real love is inevitable.

Think about this at the test, always try it out when you think its the time to a very commited relationship such as marriage, tell that you're gonna express yourself, tell your story, and tell why your beliefs and tell to that person that if he/she wants to stick with you after hearing the story then it means that she/he really love you. Some will stick with you, some won't that's the answer you're looking for.